Happy 2015 everyone!!!!
I realize I have been absent for a looooong time. I have good excuses though – I was in a play, then went to France for a couple weeks, came home to a ton of work due in a very tight timeline, and then the holidays hit and well, that pretty much brings us up to date. I’m hoping to blog at least once a week if possible this year, but I know I’ve said that before and then…you know…life.
Another reason for the inactivity is precisely that – inactivity. For the past few months I haven’t really done much cleaning, decluttering, or reevaluating. It’s been all I could do to just be where I needed to be and make deadlines on time. And while my house, purse, and car have been a MESS all fall and winter, I’m also happy to report I did very little purchasing either, so it was sort of a zero sum game on the whole lagom seeking mission.
I am proud to say that we did not go into credit card debt for our vacation, and while I did buy a few things in Europe, I didn’t go nuts either. I bought a few, carefully curated, carefully planned items that I had done a lot of research on before our trip, and all in all, I spent VERY little time shopping – which was weird and great all at the same time. Instead, we explored beautiful places, ate amazing food and drank tons of wine:
But for the most part, over the past few months when this blog has been silent, I’ve just been sitting with my stuff as it is, not really thinking about it one way or the other, and therefore have made no real changes. With the launch of a fresh new year though, I have begun to feel a renewed sense of wanting to lighten my life.
For Christmas, Ron gave me a copy of The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo, and reading it has newly inspired me to think about what I truly need, use, and love, and what stuff I’ve just grown accustomed to seeing in my space. Ms. Kondo is a bit more of an extreme minimalist than I aspire to be, and I’m not 100% sure I subscribe to everything she suggests, but I still really enjoyed her book. It’s made me start looking around with a keen eye again, and let me tell you, when that happens…nothing in my path is safe.
Even though Ron did not read the book and I haven’t really talked to him about it, he seems to be on the same wavelength as well. Yesterday morning, as we were putting away all the Christmas decorations, we were moving the armoire that holds our tv, stereo, dvd player, cable box, phone, etc. back into place, and he asked me how I would feel about getting rid of the stereo, since we never really use it. We own a couple high quality smartphone speaker docks, and we just tend to plug our phones into one of those and listen to our music that way – I can’t really remember the last time I got out a CD and used the stereo. So I agreed, and from there we also decided to get rid of the dvd player we have upstairs (it’s fairly old and had not been working properly, and we still have another one that does work in another part of the house, and I can’t say I’ve been missing the broken one since we usually watch movies on cable anyway).
Then we went through the rest of the armoire, clearing our dvd collection of any movies we no longer cared about, our cd collection of music we no longer listened to, and I tossed about 60 (seriously) empty cd jewel cases I had been saving for oh, NO APPARENT REASON. I even found a small stack of old VHS tapes that somehow survived the last purge, despite the fact it’s been about three years since we’ve owned a TV with a VHS player on which to use them:
I particularly love the two that are titled “Laura – Misc. Tape”, with no further indication of anything else that is on them. Especially since I don’t own anything to play them on in order to find out. Genius decision making right there, folks.
And when I went to get a couple bags to hold the stuff we were getting rid of, I found myself plowing through a bunch of those well intentioned reusable shopping bags that multiply like rabbits in the closet because I always think I’ll use them, and then, of course, don’t. Ron and I picked through them and each chose a couple to keep that we liked best, and the rest we got rid of. In the process, I also I found not one, but TWO lost scarves I’d been searching madly for over the past couple weeks tangled up in the mess.
As anyone who has been reading the blog for a while knows, I have been at this process since January of 2013, and with each area of my home I’ve decluttered, I’ve always gotten to the point where I’ve thought “That’s it – I can’t pare it down any less. Everything that’s left is something I need, use, and love.” Fascinating how time can change that perspective, isn’t it? I think I maybe needed the past few months to just sit quietly with some of my decisions, before I could revisit them with a clear head. If the first day of 2015 is any indication, I’ve still got a ways to go, but I’m excited to discover what’s important to me in the new year.